On Sarah’s 30th birthday, Francis knelt down on one knee with an expensive engagement ring in the presence of her family and popped the Question, “Will you marry me?”
Sarah was extremely excited and she yanked him off the floor and screamed a big “yes!”, Sarah kissed him and they cuddled each other.
A week later, Francis decided to introduce Sarah to his family. Sarah drove to Port Harcourt with him, to see Francis’s parents and to Sarah’s utmost shock, Mark was there, Mark and Francis were cousins. Mark was older than Francis.
At first, Sarah was terrified, She had dated Mark for Two years and had aborted five pregnancies in those years and the worst was that She almost ended up with him.
But to Sarah’s utmost surprise, Mark was happy to see her and he did not mince words in telling his cousin that he made a good choice though Francis’s parents were curious to know how Mark knew her. “Sarah was once my colleague” Mark lied but everyone else bought the lie. Sarah was not surprised that Mark came up with a brilliant lie. She knew that he was a blatant liar. At the same time she almost died of guilt.
Sarah who doesn’t want her Relationship with Francis to
be built on lies decided to open up to him but to Her greatest shock,
Mark had already told Francis everything.
Francis politely called off thier engagement.
“Sarah, I love you so much but I’m sorry I can’t continue this relationship, Mark my cousin had told me about your past relationship with him, I don’t think I could go ahead with our wedding plans after everything I know about you and My cousin and the pregnancies you aborted, please Sarah, I know I have no right to judge you but forever is a long time, I need time to think things through and then to decide if I want to go ahead with our wedding plans or not” Francis entered.
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Sarah was shattered and devastated as hot tears rolled down from her eyes, She was heartbroken as Francis gradually avoided her and weeks turned into months, they finally stopped communicating with each other, Sarah felt defeated and she almost died of heart break and it took her months to put herself together.
She was always sad, She kept lamenting to her friend, Florence that Francis left her without looking back and why she was always unlucky in finding a good man
“How was it that I keep hitting relationship walls, over and over again? I am 32 and my plan was to be married by 22 with at least 2 kids by 26. Why couldn’t I meet anyone that I could grow with?
How is it that everyone around me is getting into a relationship and I couldn’t just meet one person with the same mindset?” Sarah said sobbing
Florence told her that it wasn’t yet her time.
”relax my friend, Mark and Francis are not the right man for you that’s why they are no longer in your life, be thankful, because a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, remove your heart from the promise of marriage, serve God diligently, love God, pray fervently, you have a good Job, concentrate on building your career, keep your self together and be happy” Florence had told her.
“So you mean I should serve God because I need a good man? Sarah asked
”Of course not, serve God because you love him not because you want a man, remove your eyes from the promise of marriage and look on to God.
Your life is not a sum total of who marries you. Your life is not a sum total of how many kids that you have or don’t have. You are not defined by how much money you have or don’t have.
If we strip off the titles that you have— who are you? If your identity isn’t in the Lord then no man or kids will ever satisfy you. No money will ever fill that void in your heart.
When that man does come, you may have such high expectations that you end up single again because of the fantasy in your head. He will never be perfect and neither will YOU. Contentment, joy and peace come from the inside of YOU” Florence gently corrected her, She paused for a while and continued
“Don’t wait for that season to be happy. Be happy today. Be amazing today. Be fabulous today. Work out today. Spend time with God today, Love God because you love him. Don’t be desperate, live one day at a time, you are just 32 and marriage is not just what makes a woman fulfilled, build up other areas of your life too”
Sarah was encouraged, she felt so much relieved as she hugged Florence for being there for her.
A year later, when Sarah finally got over the heartbreak. She made up her mind to stop being miserable and depressed.
“Not every relationship must end in marriage, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage” She told herself.
She concentrated on her life, Job and family. She invested her time into things that made her happy.
She had given up on ever finding Love or getting married.
She was also determined to serve God not because she needed a man but for her peace of mind, most times, when she was alone she wallowed in regrets and self pity, but gradually she was healed from all pain as she began to draw nearer to God, At the other hand, She was so busy, working hard to succeed in her career. Her parents had stopped mounting pressure on her, They secretly prayed for her to find happiness instead.
Some months later, Sarah was transferred to a new branch and she was not please with the sudden transfer. She wondered how she would cope with the distance, even though her salary was increased because the new branch was very far away from where she lived with her family. She almost thought of resigning but her parents encouraged and persuaded her to Keep working with the bank.
“my daughter to find a new job these days is something else, don’t allow yourself to be discouraged, with time you will get used to it, all you need to do is wake up early and you will definitely meet up” Her parents told her and she decided to give it a try
“Dad, mom, if after three months and I find my Job stressful, I will leave the job” She concluded.
Sarah’s first day at the new bank branch was so stressful, she worked at the Customer Care department of the bank.
Two months later, She was busy attending to customers when a guy walked up to her desk and said “Good morning Sarah, one of your ATM machine outside just seized my ATM card”
Sarah stared at the young man for a while, she was not surprised about how he knew her name cause there was a tag with her name boldly printed out on her desk. She could see that the young man was stressed out.
“I’m so sorry about that” Sarah sympathised, She handled the complaint and one thing led to another, The guy needed to get a new ATM Card as the one the machine seized was damaged
When the young man wrote down his account number for some bank formalities. Sarah found out that his name was Anthony Onyeka, few minutes later, Sarah handled the situation immediately and Anthony was thankful and then he left.
Three days later, One Friday evening, at the close of work, Sarah was outside the bank, she was waiting patiently for the cab she ordered. She wondered why it took the cab driver so long to arrive. She was having a conversation with a colleague beside the security post, when some one called her name and she turned around to see who it was. Lol and behold it was Anthony.
He was heading out from one of the ATM machine.
“Hi” Sarah said it was obvious that she had forgotten his name but she remembered him.
“Good evening Miss Sarah, I don’t think you remember me” Anthony added
One look at Anthony, Sarah recognized him, there was just something about him, that’s makes him unforgettable.
“My name is Anthony, you can call me Tony, we met few days ago, when I had issues with my ATM Card” He explained
“Good evening sir, of course I remember you, have you collected your new ATM Card?” Sarah asked politely
“Yes I have, I just got it two days ago, thank you” Anthony added.
They talked for a while, Sarah made sure not to be too chatty and finally Sarah begged to take her leave.
“The cab i ordered had arrived, see you some other time Mr Anthony” She said politely and she turned around to look for her colleague who had left already while she was busy talking with Anthony.
“please can I have your phone number, so I can call you sometimes” Anthony managed to say and Sarah hesitated for a while and then she reluctantly gave her phone number to him and then she got into the cab and Anthony waved her “Goodbye”
On her way home, Sarah thought was on the well built handsome Anthony. “he seems like a nice guy” She thought.
The next day, Anthony rang Sarah, at first Sarah had no idea who called her. But she took the call and Anthony was quick to introduce himself, they got talking and in few weeks later they met up, Anthony told Sarah alot about himself.
“I’m an architect and I’m from the eastern part of the country, I’m the third child of my family” Anthony had said.
Anthony was a good man and he seemed he was developing feelings for Sarah but getting into another relationship was the last thing on Sarah’s mind.
Anthony was the perfect man, a complete free spirited, very meek, humble and sensible man. Sarah had began to notice his good qualities as they got closer and closer to each other.
And six months later, they began seeing each other weekly, then daily. Thier star signs also aligned and Anthony looked like the normal nice guy she had imagined. They fell helplessly in love with each other.
They dated for a while. A year later, Anthony proposed to her and she accepted because she had a strong conviction that he was the right person for her.
They had a lovely wedding and they lived together as husband and wife.
To Sarah’s utmost surprise she took in immediately, In no time, Sarah and Anthony had three lovely children and Anthony was the best husband and best Dad in the whole Universe. He always made Sarah happy. Sarah meant everything to him, indeed, thier union was made from heaven.
And then one day, it was just few days after Christmas and three days into the New Year , Sarah and her husband Anthony were watching the 8:00pm news on thier favorite news channel, when a picture of a man who killed his wife on Christmas day flashed on the television screen. One look at the screen, Sarah was shocked, She recognized the man whose picture was displayed on the screen
“Mark?” Sarah screamed and Anthony stared at her in confusion.
“Do you know him? “Anthony asked
“Yes my ex, Mark, I told you about him” Sarah responded
“Mark, oh the violent Mark” Anthony said calmly and he held Sarah’s hands passionately
“Honey, it could had been me, oh Lord thank you for saving me, now I know that disappointments are blessings in disguise, I knew Mark would be a wife beater, he is short tempered” Sarah said.
Few years later, Sarah and her family were at the airport waiting for thier flight to the United States.
Anthony got a well paying Job in the United States and he decided to relocate with his family.
There were at the airport when an elderly woman and a man, walked in and sat beside them.
The whole time, the old woman’s sight were on Sarah’s three children, the three innocent children were running around and that got Sarah’s attention, she wondered why the aged woman was staring at her children in that manner and then the elderly woman turned to the man she came in with.
“I have told you countless times, that I need grand children but you are not doing anything about it, take a look at these beautiful children, I know thier grand mother will be happy whenever she sees them” The old woman told the young man who Sarah assumed to be the old woman’s son.
Sarah was shocked when her sight wandered to the young man who the aged woman was talking to, lo and behold, the young man turned out to be, Francis, her first love, She almost dropped dead, suddenly her throat dried up, she lost her voice, she swallowed saliva but still she couldn’t utter a word. She tapped her husband speechlessly and point to the direction where Francis and his mother were seated and Her husband stared at her as he wondered what suddenly went wrong.
“My Love, are you okay? ‘Anthony asked and held her hands passionately
“Francis!” She whispered
Anthony stared at Francis and thier eyes jammed. Francis looked at Anthony and wondered why he was staring and then Francis’s Sight wandered to Sarah. Immediately Francis was certain of who he saw, he ran to where Sarah was sitting with her husband.
“Sarah, is that you? He asked. Sarah managed to give him a smile
“Hi Francis, nice to see you again after a long time” Sarah finally greeted and Francis reciprocated
“Is that not your mom? “Sarah entered sharply
“Yes that’s my mom, oh you still recognize her? we are going on a vacation” Francis said and smiled. Sarah greeted Francis’s mother and the old woman was pleased to see her and she was surprised when Sarah pointed to the children who were running around as her children.
Suddenly Sarah’s thought went to her husband and she quickly introduced Francis to her husband
“Francis meet my husband and the father of my children” Sarah said calmly as she smiled to her husband who greeted Francis and he reciprocated.
Episode 10 (Last Episode)
Francis stared at Sarah’s husband and children speechlessly, for a second, he envied Anthony, he wished he was in Anthony’s place.
“Oh I thought Sarah will never be able to concieve because of the several abortions, oh I wish I never left Sarah” Francis thought
Sarah didn’t bother to ask Francis if he was married or not as his old mother had already told her that Francis had never brought a good girl home, ever since they separated.
“The last girl, she dated slept with his friend” Francis’s mother had said while Francis looked away in shame, He signaled his mother to stop talking but the old woman continued
“Why did you leave my son?”The old woman threw in and Sarah told her it was the will of God. She didn’t bother going into details as it was a long story.
Anthony was a very understanding man, he had stepped aside, so Sarah could interact with Francis and his mother.
Finally they went thier separate ways when they got into the flight. Sarah reminisced on her life and she was so thankful.
“Is even better to get married late and end up with the best spouse than to marry early and end up with the wrong spouse” She thought
She held Anthony all through the flight, she kissed him at any chance she got. And Anthony loved it when Sarah kissed him, he was also kissing her back
“Anthony is the best thing that has happened to me, thank you God, I’m grateful for my husband and my children. Thank you for giving me such a lovely family, my husband is my best friend and the love of my life. He is not just kind and humble, he also has the fear of God and he loves God, Lord thank you” Sarah thought.
Sarah and her family landed in the US soil and then they settled permanently in the United States, Where they lived happily.
It’s not wrong to marry early but be careful before you choose who to Marry.
Don’t Ignore the Red Flags
One of the most important decisions you can make on the road to your destiny is choosing who you will allow to be a part of your life. The people we spend time with affect our journey. They influence us to move forward and rise higher, or they hold us back and cause us to live in mediocrity. It’s important to recognize the right relationships, and when you see that a relationship is unhealthy, you have to be willing to let it go so you can be in the right position to receive what God has for you
Not every man is a Husband material.
Some are friendzone materials.
Some are Boyfriend materials.
Some are sex mate materials.
Some are baby-papa materials.
Some are husband materials
Some are father materials
Marry a Man that would be a Brother, a good Husband and a Father to you
Some ladies, get into marriage with men who have no business being married.
Marriage is not for everybody.
Some men are not wired to function in matrimony.
Don’t allow marriage desperation or societal pressure to push you into the arms of a man who is not ready or suited for matrimony.
Don’t marry a man because you are pregnant for him.
Don’t marry him because he deflowered you or he was your first boyfriend
Don’t marry him because you are unemployed.
Don’t marry him because you’ve dated him for long.
Don’t marry him because you invested in him financially.
Marry him because you believe he is worthy of being called your Husband and the father of your unborn kids.
There are men everywhere but Husbands are scarce.
I pray for you yet to be married: you will not experience marriage bondage. And for you that feel you’ve made a mistake, retrace your step, and rededicate your marriage to God.
God is faithful and ready to help you and he will help you out.
This is not a gender war. If you are a man don’t take it personal. I know there are also “un-wifable” women but that’s a story for another day. Thank you for your understanding.